Hey y’all I’m Stephen ((left in the bottom pic)18 he/him) and this is my husband Elijah(right)19 he/him they/them) and as of December 2nd we were kicked out of his abusive mother’s household. I had been living with him and his family since September after being kicked out of my transphobic grandmother’s home, and from that point me and him had both worked hard to find and maintain jobs and attend school whilewe saved enough for our own place. His mother was extremely mentally/emotionally and financially abusive. She withheld his money that she owed and constantly raised the rent that we were both paying. Despite her collectively getting 400$ a month from the both of us, free labor in the form of child care for his younger sibling, forcing Eli to do all of her schoolwork for HER own bachelors degree, and him and I being the only ones to buy groceries and toiletries for the house as well as cook the majority of meals for the family of 5 living the apartment, she still kicked us out. From weeks prior she had been threatening to kick us out if we didn’t obey her and bend to her will, she has untreated Bipolar Disorder and has refused all attempts of therapy Eli had begged her to take.
She was extremely manipulative, controlling and extremely paranoid that anyone who told her no or asserted any agency for them self was her “ enemy “. She is also violently trasphobic and would constantly misgender me behind my back to my husband under the guise of it being “ impossible for me to be homophobic[read: transphobic because her dumbass can’t differentiate the two] because I was there for Eli when he transitioned “ which is a boldface lie ( she tried to subject him to conversion therapy when he first came out ).
Even if she were to take us back in (which is HIGHLY unlikely) the environment in which we both lived in was too toxic and unstable to stay in much longer
Eli suffered major mental breakdowns, psychotic episodes and suicidal thoughts and ideations while living with her ( as did I but to a lesser extent )
As of December 3rd we’ve been living in a DHS adults families without children assessment shelter facility: here’s our room.
The accomandtions we were provided were minimal at best ( one roll of toilet paper between the two of us, two moth bitten ‘comforters’ and thin white sheets, two small bars of facial soap. ) We can’t comfortably use the shower faucalities on site seeing that we are both the youngest and only trans occupiants. Even if we did decide to take the risk of showering, the showers are broken and won’t be repaired for some time.
Safety is a major issue as our lock is currently BROKEN ( despite asking for it to be fixed for three days ) and we live next to an violent domestic abusive couple that the faculity’s security refuses to deal with. Fights are commonplace as most of the other occupants are hostile at best.
Not only is safety an issue but we are responsible for providing our own food ( all food is provided is frozen and inedible ) and our own transportation. We have currently been eating one meal a day as a result. My partner has lost weight as a result of our stay. We have trying our best but given that we have taken work and school to figure out housing and fulfill the requirements necessary for our housing and benefits application ( attending appointments that take an average of 6 hours a time ) we have been unable to work at our minimum wage and seasonal jobs and been dependent on our non existent savings
As of last night 12/14/18 we were found ineligible for a permentant shelter transfer due to the social service investigators failing to preform a proper investigation of our prior housing.Because of this, we have to start the process over again and stay in this unsafe, hostile environment for another 10 days. We will have to go through the same proceedings again and reaply and start the process over.
My partner was laid off from work from not being able to attend recently, and now I’m the sole provider for our family. I get paid on a bi-weekly basis and hardly make enough to keep us afloat. Even so, I won’t be paid for another two weeks. We’re asking for help and assistance getting through the week, covering food and transportation costs for our appointments, amenities and toiletries, and various fees that apply to the application process, (documentation requests, printing at the public library, doctors visit copays, etc.)
Even if you can’t donate sharing this post will greatly help our chances of recieving help. Thank you for reading ❤️❤️❤️
Im really sorry i have to keep making these but all of my other posts are loosing traction and me and my partner need help now more than ever so please help if you can!
Yo, my life exploded and this time it is not my fault. 😢
I got pregnant (I planned it with the father who, almost instentaneously afterwards, became abusive) and moved back to Philadelphia after 12 years of living in Kentucky to be closer to family and reduce some stress. Well so much for that.
Here’s my little nugget:
I’m still pregnant, baby and I are fine. This baby is wanted and very much already loved.
However! My two cousins who I was living with are suddenly no longer able to live with me for reasons that are not my business to put on the internet.
I’m still in my family’s home (owned by family) but I am still presently without a steady, viable income. I’ve been very diligently looking for work since I moved back in April and all I’ve found so far are short term temp positions.
I’m currently studying to teach English (I plan to sign up for one of those imperialist work-at-home programs where you teach kids in China online or something similar) but my program is 150 hours, so I won’t be certified for a hot minute.
Anyway, I’m responsible for bills (gas, electric, water). I have to get around to interviews, state required volunteer work for TANF benefits and of course mental health & prenatal apppintments. My home is very old and the walls need to be treated for lead to make a safe environment for my little James Henry.
For now food stamps have my groceries covered! I’m on medicaid so my copays are free!
Additionally, come October, I’m going to have baby needs to pay for. I plan to breastfeed and pump, so at least I won’t have to pay for formula. When winter happens I’ll have to pay for oil heat to keep the house warm if my cousins still haven’t returned by then.
I need help.
If anyone wants to be an angel and gift my baby with a diaper service so he can wear cloth diapers (and professionals can clean them and take them away!) That would knock out one of my hugest future anxieties about being able to maintain for my baby’s needs.
Gift certificates to Philly Diaper Service would be an amazing help.
I have a baby registry up on amazon (and I’ve scheduled this post for after the strike/prime day is over) and that’s a way to help with baby needs. I would deeply appreciate getting stuff that isn’t fun, like infant detergent, wipes and cloth diapers because I’m getting some baby clothes from friends with boys.
And if you’re a more practical person, please consider gifting an amazon gift card or ca$h money to my PayPal. If my unemployment/my cousins being MIA lasts into September, I’ll build a gofundme or a youcaring to prep for baby and winter, but for now on short term emergency stuff, paypal is cool.
The Democratic candidate running against anti-immigrant Republican Congressman Steve King (IA) announced Saturday that she is dropping out of the race for her own safety.
Hey so
Part of Fascisms early roots was using violence to scare away potential candidates against their power.
Unidentified individuals scrawled anti-Semitic slogans and symbols on monuments for Holocaust victims in Estonia.
The incident occurred sometime last week at the Kalevi-Liiva village in the Harju County near Tallinn, the capital of the Baltic nation of Estonia, the website News-Front reported Thursday.
The monuments, erected at sites of mass killings of Jews during the Holocaust, were also damaged with a blowtorch. One monument was defaced with a swastika. Another read: “Juden,” German for Jews. A third had the words “Sieg Heil,” a Nazi greeting, written on it.
Virtually all of the 4,500 that had lived in Estonia before the Holocaust were murdered by January 1942, when it became the first country in Europe to be declared “Jew-free” by the Nazis.
Title: The Radical Copyeditor’s Style Guide for Writing About Transgender People: 2.8-2.11: Avoiding Invalidating Language Traps
Speech bubbles contrast the following phrases under the headings “Invalidating language” versus “Validating language”: “Women and trans women” versus “Cis and trans women”; “Students who consider themselves ‘non-binary'” versus “Non-binary students”; “Zed, who identifies as agender” versus “Zed is agender”; “her secret was exposed” versus “her history was publicized”; “closeted,” “stealth,” and “passes” versus “private” and “nondisclosure”; and “an out trans man” versus “openly trans” and “public.”
my bank account was overdrafted -30 and my kitchen is empty. i could use $10 to get something to eat tonight, if anyone wants to donate i’d greatly, greatly appreciate it :’( i’m hungry, black, n gay just trying to make it through the week
It’s like millennials do not understand that middle east has been at war for 1000′s of years. That we intervened on behalf of Kuwait. That without “bombing” people that want to kill and oppress others, millions will be murdered and tortured.
“at war for 1000′s of years”
you clearly know nothing about Afghanistan nor the middle east
It’s interesting to note that when the communist government came to power in Afghanistan in the late 70′s, one of the first things they did was declare equality of the sexes, made education for girls mandatory, & banned child marriages. The conservative tribal leaders who the US armed & funded (& who later became the Taliban) declared this to be a “war on Islam” & fought against the central government.
The US had no problem back then with encouraging the growth of Islamic conservatism to counter socialism/communism. You created your biggest enemy & you have no one to blame but yourselves.
its crazy to me how the US talks about war in the middle east as if its this ancient problem inherent to the area instead of a recent problem created by western countries to further their own interests.
Read Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi to learn more about what the US and England did to Iran so they could steal Iranian oil. It’s fucking sickening, and honestly I hate the lies and omissions surrounding this history.
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sunshine girls ✨💛☀ vex and pike for cr rsweek day 2!! u remember when vex was so excited to see pike she ran out of the bath to give her a big hug and pike got so flustered she forgot how to speak? bc i sure do
